Question by : Boyfriend traveling dangerously?
My boyfriend is a cultural anthropologist for living, so that mean he’s out of the country a lot. I don’t really know much detail about most things he do. He’d just talk about the country and other things, but never say what actually happen to him. He usually says he can’t take me or he’d just make an excuse. So when I found out he’d be in Czech for two days, I beg him to take me and make it a week so we can go together. I end up went with him.
It was a nightmare! After his job was done, he doesn’t want to pay for the hotel, so we end up stay in hostel where it was uncomfortable and creepy! He doesn’t even seem bothered by it. He went to stranger’s place for dinner simply because they invite him, need to stop by at same tobacco store everyday just to talk to the same worker everyday before we do anything, refuse to pay attention to my tourist guidance book, etc… Then when he got fed up, he let me take lead and refuse to help me whenever I did something wrong.
Once we got back, I talked to a couple of his friends about this. They all say that they’re not surprise and that I have it very easy. They say he have been in two airplane crashes because he trust some pilot who own a airplane that are falling apart, got stuck in a city northern in Russia where winter was so bad that no transport would come for a month, had a car broke down in middle of desert in Africa, end up in a place with land mines, and other crazy things.
So I tried to talk to my boyfriend and ask him to change his job and if he did do that, I’d do anything for him. I even told him I’d stay home and take care of every chores in the house so he never have to take care of any chores for rest of his life, he can have any pets he want, he can collect anything and keep it in house, etc…
To my shock, he says he enjoy living like this too much to give it up. Why would he want to live like this? I have went to couple states and I never need to do anything crazy to be happy but for him… It is just not good enough.
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Answer by ♥♫♥Juicy Couture Yourself©♥☆♫
trying talking to him about why he likes his job so much.Then try and ask him what he wants for him to give up his job and contrast with that idea
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It isn’t easy getting into the career he has chosen, so he obviously worked hard because this is what he wanted to do. Asking him to give up his chosen career is utterly selfish. You can’t be a cultural anthropologist at home. When you went on the trip with him, you found out that he isn’t taking vacations. He does what he has to in order to get the job done. You are asking him to give up what he has worked very hard for and looked forward to for many years. This is definitely one of those places in a relationship where you have to make a concession or move on. Either you deal with his travel or find someone who fits your idea of how life is supposed to be lived.